Encouragement in Trials
On a recent visit to the doctor's office, treatment options were being discussed.
As we talked about each treatment, the doctor explained what the treatment consisted
of and the possible side-effects of the treatment. Certain effects could be expected
while others remained as only possibilities.
The doctor also talked about how people always seemed to tell you the worst
things you could expect. They go through it but then seem very willing to tell
others how bad it will be. When facing trying times, we often hear horror stories about how bad things
are going to be. When I was getting ready to have my wisdom teeth cut out a
few years back, many were on hand to tell me how painful it was going to be.
Perhaps dealing with the bad in a situation has such a profound effect and reflects
the greatest challenge for us that we just want to make sure others who are
going to go through similar circumstances are prepared. But our experiences
don't always mean the same effects will be suffered by everyone. On the other hand, we sometimes swing the other way and go out of our way to
lessen the impact of what someone is going to go through. We try and paint a
"rosy" picture for them in an attempt to sooth their fears. Again
the motives are in the right place as we are trying to help but we can leave
someone with unrealistic expectations. Sometimes it may be best to simply say, "You'll get through it because
the Lord is with you" or "I am praying for you." Just being there
can be enough. Remember Job's three friends sat in silence with him for 7 days.
It was only after they began to speak that things were made worse. It can be
tricky to know how to encourage but if we use our experience, let's make sure
everyone knows it is just that and not a set in stone rule.
